Vanilla

n. core concepts

1.Mainstream, non-kinky sexual activity or a person who does not engage in BDSM or kink.

2.Vanilla is a colloquial term used in kink communities to describe conventional, non-kinky sexual activity or people who do not practice BDSM or kink. The term is not typically intended as an insult — it simply marks the difference between kink-identified and non-kink-identified people or practices. Some kinky people also enjoy vanilla sex. 'Going vanilla' in a kink context can mean stepping out of a BDSM dynamic temporarily.